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Saturday, March 12, 2022

Defining the Main Substyles- Sweet, Gothic, and Classical

 Do you want to look like someone may mistake you for a cake? How about an Addams? Maybe a young Victorian child? Sweet. Gothic. Classical. Each of the main sub-styles has its own character and personality and its own group of dedicated fans. Sweet may feel like a hard candy but gothic decadent chocolate cake and classical a nice soft cookie easy to look at and eat. But to go about defining them simply is difficult in my mind and in the minds of beginners and people who haven't been in the fashion long. A sweet print on a black dress may come off as gothic and a white dress with a gothic style as a classical look or even a darker classical as gothic, or a light floral as sweet. But I think I may have figured out how to tell these slightly confusing instances apart. And as a result how to define them.

    We will start with Classical possibly the most confusing of the 3 to really define and make an opinion on. Classical Lolita can look like anything from a beautiful floral print on a pink background to a dark wine OP dress with a Victorian or Edwardian styled sleeve and neckline. The defining attributes though in my opinion can be the neckline and how the dress is cut. A classical dress will normally have a higher neckline in an OP or a more square neckline in a JSK and the blouse will often be high necked as well with a good deal of ruffle around it. the color pallet is often muted pinks, dark wines, browns, dark blues, dark greens, and off whites. Classical is a slightly more mature-looking substyle like that of a Victorian or Edwardian woman. Classical Lolita is very much going for an elegant but cute look.

Gothic is quite a bit easier to recognize. Lots of black, dark reds, and dark blues. The motifs are usually things that you would instantly recognize as "goth" such as bats, black cats, crosses, Christian and Catholic and even Satanic iconography, and general gothic motifs. Gothic JSKs are generally cut a bit lower in the bust than their classical cousins nothing too dramatic usually, but enough to notice. Some gothic necklines have embellishments such as being shaped or trimmed in some way. Generally both Sweet and Classical have a gothic variant with more dark colors and more gothic motifs, such as Bitter-Sweet or Dark Classical. Some gothic blouses will have collars in the shape of bat wings or spider webs and often will come in black, a stark white, dark red, or dark blue with detailing in a contrasting color. Gothic Lolita is very much a dark and very mysterious feeling part of the fashion.

And now on to my personal favorite substyle. Sweet Lolita. With pinks, Saxon blue, lavender, teal, light yellows, and stark whites and the main colors, sweet lolita is a very loud and colorful substyle. It is very noticeable in a crowd and a Sweet Lolita may often get mistaken for a cosplayer, I know I have been. with the popular motifs of candies, pastries, fruits, and sweets of all kinds it is easy to see where the style gets its' sweet monicker but other popular prints include animals, tea parties, and even carnival scenes. compared to its; more demure cousins Sweet Lolita can seem like A LOT. but it has a very dedicated set of fans and is well-loved within the community. Sweet Lolita feels like walking into a candy shop as a child and being able to try all of the candy and sweets they have to offer. 

These are not all of the substyles of Lolita by a long shot but they are the 3 main substyles and the ones that most other substyles usually fall under. And like all things in fashion, it is okay to mix things up a bit and make something totally your own. Lolita is about the fashion but it's also about the freedom of self-expression and the right to love yourself loudly. So carry on and love yourself in your own way, be it dressed like a giant cake, a bouquet of flowers, or a porcelain doll you would find in a goths bedroom. 

Thans all for this post, I do hope you found it interesting and informative and maybe even entertaining. Thank you so very much for reading and I hope to see you back here soon.

                                                    Yours Always

                                                                    Rose

The "Rules of Lolita" As Defined by Me

        As we all know our beloved fashion has many rules. Some seem silly until put into practice, like bloomers under dresses or skirts being below a certain length. Some are just part of the fashion at this point, like always needing some kind of petticoat. Here are the basic rules as I personally follow them.

Unless it isn't needed (weather, just hanging out inside, such and such) I have all of these parts to my coordinates
  • Headdress (Always)
  • An appropriate hairstyle (Always)
  • earrings (sometimes)
  • necklace (sometimes)
  • blouse (depends on the coord)
  • Main Piece (always)
  • Bloomers (always, fight me)
  • Petticoats (always)
  • socks, stockings, or tights (depends on the shoes)
  • shoes (Always unless inside someone's home and they ask you to remove them)
  • bag (Usually)
Some of these things are just personal preference some are actually required. 

What is actually required is; 
  • A headdress
  •  A blouse (unless it's an OP you can wear without one.)
  • JSK/Skirt/OP
  • petticoat
  • bloomers
  • legwear
  • shoes if outside
Some would argue that a bag of some kind is required because most dresses don't have pockets. I don't think it's required especially if you wear it at home a lot, but if you're going out it's best to carry a bag or have someone with you to carry your things. 

Now in Lolita, there are quite a few rules as to how your clothes should look.
  • You should always have some kind of petticoat on, even if it's a casual coord. 
  • You should have some kind of headdress on even if it's just a bow clip in your hair while it's down or in a ponytail.
  • You shouldn't be showing much if any cleavage on your chest. ( there are exceptions to this)
  • Lolita is a very modest fashion, so you should do your makeup modestly. "Less is more" is a general rule ( again there are exceptions )
  • Too many accessories can overwhelm the look so keep them to a reasonable amount. ( unless it's decora or OTT then go all out and have as many as you can )
  • If you like it it isn't out of style. ( looking at myself and rectangle headdresses)
  • Your look should be balanced, your skirt is big and poofy, add volume to your hair.
  • You shouldn't be showing a ton of skin, little to no cleavage unless it is Ero-Lolita and even then it is a very modest kind of sexy.
  • You shouldn't look sloppy with stains and bits of fluff or food on you, or your makeup a mess.
  • And lastly, you should enjoy wearing what you have on. Lolita is after all fashion, and unless you like it, even if you are the only one who does, it won't serve its purpose. 
I do have my own rules for etiquette, manners, and actions for when I am in Lolita which I will put in another post, But for now, this is where I will say until next time my friends. Thank you so much for reading this post and if you have comments, questions, or suggestions for things I need to add please feel free to comment below. Thank you all and have a lovely day.
                                                Always Yours
                                                                    Rose




Wednesday, March 2, 2022

Well back to it!

 As of the end of March 2022 I will be back, and blogging again! I am so excited to be able to come back to this project that is such a wonderful part of my day and my life in general. I am also working on a few things that I want to run by the community as a whole and see if they are a good idea. So be looking forward to those posts coming up soon! Thank you everyone for your patience and understanding.

                                                  Yours Always 

                                                                Rose

Sunday, February 20, 2022

How do you feel about Visual kei or Jrock, and do you feel it’s related to lolita, or not?

This post may be controversial

I actually listen to a good deal of Jrock and I love the aesthetics of Visual Kei, while I do think they can be incorporated into lolita they are styles in their own right. Jrock is very about the music and making a coord around a specific song or band would be a fun thing to do especially for a concert or to go to a festival in. As for it really relating heavily to lolita in any way, I don't think it is, mostly because it isn't really a fashion it's about the music. Anyone can like the music though, including lolitas. 

As for Visual Kei, I see it more as a sister fashion to lolita, You can absolutely mix the two and it still fits in both categories. Giving some of the punky/gothy aesthetics a nice lolita silhouette would be a perfect way to do this and the way the makeup is done is absolutely an art form and would be a great addition to an OTT Gothic or Punk coord. Or if you do it right you may be able to tone down the dark colors and replace them with bright or pastel ones and work it into a Hyper Sweet coord. There are also pieces of jewelry, blouses, and patterns from the clothes that you could incorporate into a lolita coord 

I also feel like both Visual Kei and J-Rock get inspiration from the aesthetics of Gothic and Punk lolita and on occasion Sweet and Classical. Visual Kei more so than J-rock due to the outlandish nature of the scenes both are a part of. Because whether we like it or not lolita is a very outlandish fashion and while things like that are becoming more and more common those of us in niche fashion communities and just general niche communities need to stand together. 


I think there's a good amount of overlap in the fashions of all three communities, but while lolita is all about the fashion the Visual Kei and Jrock communities spawned from the music the artists in them create. It honestly isn't a fair comparison because of the origins of the scenes. Lolita spawned from the feminist movement in Japan while the other spawned from the music created by the bands and artists in the scenes. 

    These are just my own thoughts on the subject. I would love to hear everyone's opinions though. If you have thoughts about the topic post a comment and let me know. I love interacting with the readers of my blog and possibly making new friends in the process. Thank you for reading.

                                                            Yours Always

                                                                                Wild Tea Rose

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Thursday, February 17, 2022

a Momentary pause in posts.

Hello all. I qm having some technical difficulties due to having to move recently. I will begin updating my blog again as soon as I have internet available to me again, which should be soon. Thank you for your patience. 
    Yours Always 
                   Rose

Saturday, January 29, 2022

10 Small Things That Make Me Feel Lolita, When I'm Not In Lolita

This is a small collection of things that, silly or not, make me feel more lolita in my everyday life. I will be offering no explanation because some of these are very silly and seemingly unrelated to lolita at all.

10. Wearing makeup.
9. Having my nails painted in specific colors.
8. Doing embroidery of any kind.
7. Listening to classical music
6. writing things by hand. ( the vast majority of my posts are handwritten in a notebook before they are typed up )
5. Studying French
4. Wearing bows of any kind, especially in my hair.
3. Using vintage methods of skin and hair care.
2. Organizing my stuffed animal collection.
1. Writing about lolita-related topics for this very blog. 

I really am sorry for such a silly and short post. Things in my home have been hectic as of late. I would love to hear from everyone about things that for no other reason than it feels right make you feel "lolita". I really do love hearing from you all. 
                                                                Always,
                                                                        Rose

Sunday, January 16, 2022

Do you look for bargains to save as much money as possible, or are you willing to make sacrifices for high-quality products?

     While I do normally look for bargains and ways to save money I know when things are worth splurging on. There are a few things I will always splurge on, however. If it's a dream dress, a good quality petticoat, or any kind of shoes. Dream dresses because well I never know when I will see it again. Petticoats because I have noticed that the better quality ones are usually more expensive. And Shoes because you want high-quality materials between your feet and the ground.

    I will absolutely splurge on a Dream Dress. You really never know when you will get another opportunity to get it. There IS a limit but if I ever see Milky Planet (Lav), Be My Valentine (Sax), or Royal Crown Strawberry I would pay a disgusting amount for them. 

Petticoats are an absolute must-have for any lolita and the higher the quality, the higher the price. There is, of course, layering them and I do that but it's not always comfortable and when I just want to quickly get dressed and head out layering them properly can be a real pain. Literally. The pressure on my waist can make wearing them unbearable. I do find that a structured underthing can help, such as a well-boned corset, a pair of Spanx or some such thing, or even a chest binder works well for me to alleviate some of the pain of having all that pressure in one spot. 

And shoes. If you don't splurge on shoes they fall apart and you end up spending way more on another 3 or 4 pairs that only last a few months to a single year rather than one pair that will last 4 or 5 years or more. Well-made shoes are becoming hard to come by so if you see some snag them. I recommend this for lolitas who wear their frills more than twice a week ( like myself ). I have a pair of an*tai*na Tea Parties that I have had for like 4 years now and they're still in great shape. Seriously though buy good shoes, in general, it'll see your feet.

Overall though as much as a bargin shopper as I am I will splurge if I can afford to. Especially with shoes. (can you tell I like shoes?) In my experience you get what you pay for in everything from clothing to electronics. Try to avoid planned obsolescence as much as you can and please shop responsibly. Places that have sustainable and ethical business practices are the best places to shop. All it takes in a Google search to find out. So all in all shop smart and splurge when you can and overall have fun with your shopping and frills.

                                         Yours Always

                                                        Rose